It’s recently come to my attention that I’m not very good at dating.
And while I don’t enjoy playing games I’m not good at, I also don’t enjoy sitting on the bench.
So tonight, true to my problem-solving m.o., I drove to B&N and shamelessly plopped down in front of 3 rows of relationship advice books.
I skimmed “The Game.” The laws of attraction lured me in, but Neil kept saying that these laws would land me tons of women and while I’m sure these tricks apply to both sexes, this isn’t a risk I’m willing to take.
So I continued browsing despite the piteous looks of passersby.
“He’s Just Not That Into You”
Oh, I think I get that one.
And then I saw it.
“Why Men Marry Bitches”
Oh yes, I’ll indulge.
My expectations were low, but within the first few pages I felt like a Satanist who had finally sat down for a glass of wine with Jesus.
You mean I’m NOT supposed to kill people?!
I’m supposed to LIKE my neighbors!?
I’m still not sure if the book is worth $16.95, but I do plan to read more on future trips.
I mean, who’s in a rush to get married, right? You know, when it’s time for that, maybe, MAYBE, I will consider the option. Did that work?
It’s been my experience that I see all these women dating losers or girlie boys (not men). Just saying
Here’s the thing about relationships, they’re complicated. Not because women and men don’t speak the same language or because they’re programmed differently, but because it’s a complicated situation.
I think your blog will help though.
Anyone guy who reads it will know exactly what he’s in for with you.
It’s funny that you say that. I kind of wonder sometimes whether it should or should not be thrown out there, but in the end, this really is the best snapshot of who I am and how I think.
I concurr with Sid “Anyone guy who reads it will know exactly what he’s in for with you.”
Not a bad thing!
Thanks Phil!
I bet you could find that book on Amazon.com for a couple dollars. Those are the kind of books I like to call coaster books. People read them and then use them as coasters.
Regardless of price, I’m not sure I want to future male visitors to see a book with said title.
Oh, I’m so curious “why men marry bitches”. What was the books’ explanation? Since I’m already married and I’m his first wife, does that make me a bitch? I’m a little worried about it.
Siddhartha nails it..
Jes,
I don’t know what the book says but popular wisdom is men don’t like needy women. Women who are too nice tend to give off a needy vibe, like I’ve got to be nice to you so you’ll like me.
Confident women on the other hand don’t need to “suck up” to men by fawning all over them. They don’t really need the guy but they’ll put up with him if he’s not too obnoxious.
Hence, nice girls finish last (because they’re needy) and the bitches (confident women) get the man.
Not that I agree with any of that, but that’s how I’ve heard it.
Send me your address, I’ll mail you my copy for free. I made it to page 75, Chapter 4, and decided why would I be interested in dating anyone that would be ok with me being a bitch? I wouldn’t treat anyone else in my life this way…
I’ve got more than a few battle scars from 3 years of dating. I have an online dating book in me too, but I’m not sure people would believe all of the things that really happened to me.
I’m serious about the book…negative attracts negative and this book needs to do.
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Love it Ann. So glad we’re going to be Twitter buddies now because I definitely want to hear these stories.
I found this book while browsing in the Library. “Why Men Marry Bitches” is a hilarious book if you aren’t looking for a serious read. I enjoyed reading this woman’s opinion even though I wouldn’t use her tricks of the trade. They explain the word bitch as meaning a woman who knows what she wants and will get out there and take it. Being a more passive woman, I loved reading the exact opposite opinion. ps i hid my copy while i had it at home because having a man find that book just makes us women look bad